I Don’t Get It????

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Finish the Sentence Friday

“I never understand what the big deal was about…” 

I was utterly stumped with this prompt. I kept thinking about all the things that annoy me, but are they worth writing about?

Then the idea of PERFECTION popped in my head. Admitting to being yourself and not someone’s idea of perfection is BIG for me.

I am NOT PERFECT. No way, no how. Don’t want to be. Seriously, who wants to be perfect. It’s lonely because no one is going to be as good as you. It’s tedious, because you have to keep it up all the time. It’s boring, because perfect people don’t get caught doing fun, exciting, risky things. It’s stupid, why would you want to be perfect?

I love my son, I love my life. But I sometimes look at my phone when playing with my son. I sometimes pray that bedtime would arrive so I can just sit and veg out. I pray that he would stop asking me so many flipping questions. I pray that he would stop being rude and listen to me. I don’t make fancy lunches or dinners. I don’t provide candy and treats for class parties. I don’t have matching bags, shoes, and clothes. I don’t cry with desperation when a project I found on Pinterest doesn’t come out like I expected. I don’t stay up late making the perfect cake for Dino’s birthday. I don’t care! 

I am a mom. A mom who knows BEING a mother is more important than image. I am a mom that knows loving my son, reading him books, hugging him, proving kisses and support, respecting his ideas is more important than LOOKING like a good mom. I am a mom who openly complains about motherhood. I HAVE EARNED THAT RIGHT. Whether you work full time, part time, or stay at home you are a mother 24/7 for the rest of your lives. You have EVERY RIGHT to complain. My complaints keep me sane. My complaints help me stay focused and know the true value and importance of motherhood. 

not perfect collage

If we all just let ourselves be the mothers we want to be instead of what we thinks others want us to be…imagine how truly awesome we would all be. If we all supported each other and let listen to the rants, imagine how more secure and respected we would feel as moms. 

Is there something that you just don’t get or agree with? 


Comments

I Don’t Get It???? — 18 Comments

  1. I love this and seriously have to admit that us moms do need to stick together and support each other through the good and the bad. By the way, I too was stumped on this one at first, but then I too came up with some thing thanks to my kids giving me inspiration 😉

  2. I want to start participating but I have thinking on this on all week and I can’t seem to come up with anything! I need some inspiration! And I’m with you…I’m me, definitely not perfect. I can’t be someone else.

  3. Nothing is popping to mind for me, but I’m on board with no perfection. Posted something like this just this morning on FB. Nobody is perfect, so let’s just exhale and stop trying!

    • thanks! Yeah, enough is enough…I think my freinds who are new moms or going to be new moms are happy to talk with me becasue I listen, don’t judge and share stories of how normal and crazy I am. Screw the perfectionists.

  4. Awesome. So true. What is a ‘perfect mum’ anyway. You ask a kid, they will say their mum is. You ask a grownup, they will tell you what they might have changed about their mum. So – we all want something different in a mum anyway.
    I do my best – that is all. 🙂

  5. karen, you are doing a fine job cause honestly even I don’t fancy all the stuff with planning etc. Just go with the flow and make my kid feel that we are ordinary people but with beautiful insights cause that what matters in the end…right?

    TGIF

    • it is what matters most. I want my son to grow up loving who he is not worrying about being someone else. That starts with me, I have to model what that is.

  6. Love it. I am the same way. I don’t pretend to be perfect, and I frequently tell all my flaws just to face the insecurity and let people know I’m not perfect and that it’s okay to not be perfect. While motherhood is no easy task, other people seem to make it harder as opposed to the children. It’s the judgement you get from teachers, PTA, friends, family, Facebook that makes motherhood unbearable at times. Every mom freaks about stupid things, and overly worries, especially about what kind of mother she is, and the trending thing is to make her sound less of a mother because she gave her kid a milkshake at 10AM, or because her kid got a B, or didn’t score the first goal in the game, or something stupidly unimportant that has absolutely nothing to do with any actual parenting. It’s out of hand. And then you get people complaining about people complaining. That’s so hypocritical in so many forms of irony. The point is, I found a group of mothers like myself online, and we have our own Facebook group specifically designed to rant, rave, and complain. We don’t judge. We don’t complain about complaining. We offer cyber hugs, words of encouragement, and real advice (not criticism cloaked as advice). I would not be here if it weren’t for them.

    • that is so important to have a group like that. acceptance and understanding is all you need. I get so sick of the moms who pretend to be perfect or ALWAYS love being a mom 100%of the time. Taht’s not perfection, it’s lies and abnormal. We all need to scream and cry and it’s okay. (((HUGS)))

  7. YES YES YES! Want to shout this out from every rooftop. Who cares about being perfect? Let’s just be us. The best moms to our kids because we have the best kids ever. Every mama does. Cheers and I LOVE love love your collage!!

  8. Yes yes yes! What’s up with this struggle for perfection? Humans by nature have flaws. That’s just how it goes. I know I get stuck in that rut too. I don’t use Facebook as often because I started to compare myself to others. Reality is, people write what they want you to hear. THey’re not gonna post the bad stuff, at least not most of them. I got so tired of comparing, I’m just happy being me right now.

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