Knowing My Limits

 

 

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Knowing My Limits

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I know MANY, MANY, MANY moons ago I posted about organization and a cleaning routine. Heck I was even a Flybaby at one time too…but I was also overweight, not sleeping, stressed, and not exercising.

Everything was piling on my shoulders and I thought I could do it all, but I was wrong.

Then inspired by a friend on Facebook, Carlin, who lost weight, I started making changes.

  • eating and cooking healthy, organic foods
  • exercising almost daily
  • keeping to a blogging schedule
  • feeling stronger and healthier
  • having more energy and time to play with my son

But where does cleaning and organizing fit in? It doesn’t. My other friend Cathy and I were texting. In reference to my getting in shape and strength training, she asked how I do it all. I responded with “I don’t. I haven’t cleaned in God knows how long.”

There is only so much time and so much one person can do. Sure some moms can get it all done and more power to them. I can’t and that is okay. NO MORE GUILT was a previous post and I still stand by it. So what will happen if I don’t clean and organize. Well, I still need to organize, but as for cleaning.

 

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I decided to hire Molly Maids.

They will come twice a month starting in September. I’ll be home this summer, so I have no excuses with Dino in summer camp three days a week. If I wasn’t working, I wouldn’t/couldn’t’ afford it, but to keep my sanity in check this needs to be done. I don’t feel guilty about not doing it all. There are those out there that feel moms should NOT have time to themselves, their wholes lives are for their kids. To that I respond…What are you teaching your kids? That you as a mom are not worth a life? That you are only there to serve them? That once they too become parents they will have to give up any life they once had to be there 100% for their kids.

NOPE

My son knows I work hard. My son knows I NEED to have time with my friends. I need to blog to create and receive inspiration. I need to exercise to keep healthy. I need to read to fuel my mind. I am a human, just like him, and need to nurture myself as much as I nurture him.

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Paying forMolly Maidswill bring peace of mind and more time. To me it’s worth the price, which isn’t that bad. The first cleaning will be the most expensive since they have to start from scratch and it may take up to three hours, but after that it’s a set price each visit. 

They will

  • vacuum every inch of our apt including under and in the couches
  • dust from the fans to the floor boards
  • clean the kitchen, including inside the cabinets 
  • clean the bathroom, including the toilet and tub
  • clean all the window sills and blinds

Now I know I still have to keep it tidy, so they can do their job. I don’t want to pay more for them to clean up after us, but having a clean place will make me want to keep up the cleanliness. Knowing that I can spend more time with Dino and do the things I want to do makes it all worth it. Granted, I don’t like the idea of them being in my house, but they are a well-known company that is used often and has great reviews.

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Here are some questions that have been asked or might be asked…..

Hubby suggested I don’t write this because some people might read it and give them more ammo to talk about me or judge me. 

Once again, I am doing this for myself and for my sanity. I have a new attitude, I don’t give a f&ck. People are going to talk about me and judge, so I’m going to do what’s best for me. I am so tired of it all…so I am choosing to be happy and let them live in negativity.

I’m not going to change my blog for those who are going to pick it apart. I write my blog for me, to create memories for my son, to express myself, and to connect with other moms just like me.

I was asked why I still can’t do my fly lady routine in the morning before work and at night???

I don’t leave the bathroom a pig sty in the morning, but I have to get up at 5 to have enough time to get ready, eat, and leave. I have a long commute to work, it’s not like I can sleep till 7 and drive 15 minutes to work. If I continued doing the routine I would have to get up at 4 just to get it all done…hence no sleep. I can no longer stay up late, I am ready to crash as soon as Dino goes to bed. I try to do as much as I can while we are both up. It would be wonderful to do my work while Dino is doing his homework. Staying up late is a torture I don’t want to endure as long as I work and have a son who wakes up at 6 am, or earlier.

Sue down the street works all day, has three kids, and still keeps her house clean.

Well that’s great for Sue. More power to her. I’m not Sue and I don’t owe you or her an excuse.

 

What is one thing you would never compromise?

About karen

Karen is married to a big kid and mom to a head strong, only child. She is happy with her family of three, along with their spoiled fur baby. Karen works full time as a teacher and still finds time to blog, read, crochet, and cook. Follow along as she enjoys this life.

Comments

Knowing My Limits — 10 Comments

  1. Who the heck is going to judge you for hiring cleaners?! There just aren’t enough hours in the day. We all try to pick up/clean before and after work, right? But there’s still not enough time to mop the floor or scrub the tub. And “Sue down the street” is hiding some dirty secret…it might even be that ‘fake clean’ that was linked in my Friday Five a couple weeks ago. Confession: We have a cleaning service come every other week. Before we hired a cleaner, my Husband wouldn’t help pick up or clean because it wasn’t urgent-and I resented spending HOURS cleaning the house by myself. Now that there’s an external timeframe, he helps. Worth it. So worth it. Good for you!

  2. Karen, good for you and no judging. I am home everyday working from home with tw kids and a puppy now – I can definitely use Molly Maids and not too proud to say that out loud here either!! 🙂

  3. Of course, you did the right thing, and we’d all do it the instant we could! I already have a weekly cleaner, and am so happy about it. There’s only so much one person can do. #FTSF

  4. If and when I work outside the home, the first thing I will do is hire a house cleaner. I hate it, and I will certainly not judge you for hiring one. You do what you need to do Karen – I think it’s a brilliant idea!

  5. We have a cleaning service, too, Karen, and it’s a sanity saver. Great for Sue. But I’m not her. I think your priorities are exactly as they should be for you – only you know the best way to spend time with Dino, blog, read, exercise, and bleh to cleaning anyway!

  6. I’m a Fly Lady drop-out, too! 😉 I still do my dry-erase checklists because they keep me sane, but I too don’t give a f&ck about the rest right now. GOOD FOR YOU for hiring Molly Maids and knowing your limits. And more importantly? For keeping your needs on the table. That is so important for your whole family. A huge YES to this entire post!

  7. Hi: Not sure that you need to worry too much about having made an intelligent life choice. You have the resources at this point in your life to choose where to spend your time and focus. I think that should be applauded, not the source of more useless Mommy guilt! Congratulations!

  8. I think that it’s awesome you’re setting limits! We are only human after all.
    I have a two-person cleaning crew come once a week, and they have been for four years. I don’t feel any shame in it.

  9. No judging here! When my guys were little I had a cleaner come in once a week. It was a godsend and I never regretted it. Neither did my kids who got to live with a much happier and more relaxed mommy!

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