Fly on the Wall



Fly on the Wall

Welcome to a Fly on the Wall group post. Today 18 bloggers are inviting you to catch a glimpse of what you’d see if you were a fly on the wall in our homes. Come on in and buzz around my house.

Buzz around, see what you think, then click on these links for a peek into some other homes:


  • Mommy: AKA Karen, me…the wife and mom 
  • Daddy: AKA Tony, husband and dad
  • AJ – our only child, a 6 year old boy who thinks he knows it all and is the one in charge

After getting one of his birthday gifts, a scooter from Daddy, AJ very seriously said. “I know I can’t ride it in the house. It’s best for me to ride it outside.”

Later that day he tried riding it in our dining area and does the craziest fall, hitting his head twice on the wooden chair. It would have made for a hysterical you tube video, but I wasn’t quick enough. After moaning on the floor he started screaming at the scooter and chair. “It’s all your fault. You are supposed to do your jobs. I’m not your friend anymore.” Hands were flying as he spoke-can we say Italian temper?

THANKFULLY he’s fine. He’s a tough kid, but it was a pretty hilarious fall and I hope he learned his least for a few weeks, days, hours.


AJ wanted to make a ghost mask. Together we came up with the idea to attach the mask to his birthday crown (from school). After the face, he wanted to make a whole body to go with it. Once that was done, he walked around the house for about twenty minutes making ghost sounds.  He did all the drawing and cutting himself. I just helped him tape it to the crown. 


“Now that I’m six I only have one more year before I can watch Goosebumps. Right Mommy? You said when I was seven and seven is after six.”  He kept asking to watch Goosebumps on Netflix, but it’s way to scary for him…even gives me chills. So when he was still five I quickly said he had to wait till he was seven to watch it. It was one of those “mommy moments” when you just want silence and give an answer. Obviously I regret it now, I wish I had said he had to wait till he was ten.

Is there anyway to delete a TV show from Netflix?????


We have a LOOSE TOOTH!!!! It was exciting. We were both cheering in Whole Foods and laughing. Fast forward a week…NOTHING.

loose tooth

Later that morning, after we came home and put groceries away, we walked to the library. The library is just up the hill from our place, sure it’s a hill, but it’t not THAT far. AJ insisted we sit down because, “It’s been a long and tiring morning. I need a rest.”

long day

Hooray, he FINALLY lost that darn tooth on Tuesday!!!! He must have swalloed it during lunch. Of course he was laughing because… “The Tooth Fairy is going to get my poop tooth.”

There was a kindergarten celebration for both classes on Tuesday. The students read one writing piece for the parents and we go to see a slide show of pictures and the students reading short plays based on books. Then we all went to the gym to help out with activities and games. What a great way to end kindergarten…even though Thursday (yesterday) was the last day of school for them.

Anthony won the guessing game after correctly guessing how many erasers were in the bag without going over.  “This is the best day of my life.” Apparently he’s easy to please.

PicMonkey Collage

This is how AJ watches TV sometimes. Or he stands in front of the TV wiggling around, or jumps from couch to couch. All I can do is laugh at him and imagine how much pain I would be in if I watched TV like that.

watching TV

Yesterday was AJ’s last day of school, he’s so excited. Though tomorrow and all next week Mommy still has to work. The poor guy has to get up early to go to work with Daddy then off to summer camp.

first and last day

AJ is SIX today!

My son is six! Yes six years old!!!. Where did the time go? Seems not too long ago that it was six years of trying to become parents. Six years of heartbreak, pain, desperation, and loneliness that have now been replaced with six years of bliss, love, exhilaration, hope, and awesomeness. We became a family because of you!

I’m the mom to a six year old. I’m the mom to a boy who will be passing kindergarten and moving on to 1st grade! I’m a mom of a cool dude. I’m the mom of a handsome, intelligent, caring, kind, independent, stubborn, motivated, and talented little man.  I can’t wait to see how he changes the world.

Questions for Dinosaur at age 6:

  1. What is your favorite color? red
  2. What is your favorite toy? Picachu (Pokemon)
  3. What is your favorite fruit? mango
  4. What is your favorite vegetable? broccoli
  5. What is your favorite show? Pokemon
  6. What is your favorite thing to eat for lunch? cold cut sandwich
  7. What is your favorite thing to wear? my pocket shirt (shirt with a small pocket)
  8. What is your favorite game? Monopoly Jr
  9. What is your favorite snack? Whole Food’s duckie crackers
  10. What is your favorite animal? monkey and gorillas
  11. What is your favorite song? Row, Row, Row your boat
  12. What is your favorite book? The Runaway Bunny
  13. Who is your best friend? Daniel
  14. What is your favorite breakfast? Bacon (only allowed on the weekends)
  15. What do you like to do when you go outside?  monkey bars
  16. What is your favorite drink? water
  17. What is your favorite holiday? Christmas
  18. What do you like to take to bed with you? ALL of them, but Mommy doesn’t let me
  19. What is your favorite thing to eat for dinner? pizza
  20. What do you want to be when you grow up? a Pokemon Master and a dad with six kids

His answers when he was five years old, four years old...


AJ when he was still in his preemie clothes…my tiny little man



preemie outfit

AJ over the years

PicMonkey Collage 2015

 Six Year Old AJ

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I Keep Going

city-people-walking-blurI haven’t participated in a while and thought its about time I contributed.


hosted by Kristi and Michelle (who thought of today’s sentence)

After a hard day’s work…I keep going. 

Yes, it never ends…not even when I put my head down on my pillow to sleep. My mind keeps spinning a list of all the things I must do the next day, and the day after, and so on…

It all begins with me leaving for work about 6:40 in the morning and starting my 70 mile round trip commute. As an itinerant reading specialist, I often travel to various schools.   It’s a long drive, but at least I can listen books on tape and try to enjoy the ride.

When I finally arrive in my town, I can’t go home.

Why? Well we live on a main road and next to stop sign. The traffic going to the stop sign is horrendous from three to well after five, just when I need to get my son. If I go home for a bit, then try to leave again, chances are it will take some time to get back out. The wait often turns into ten or fifteen minutes. Other drivers, even thought they aren’t moving, will inch up and refuse to let me go…it’s really sad. Let me say there are some sweet people out there who will let you go…thank you!!!!

Therefore I choose to either stay a bit later at work and then drive to my son’s daycare to pick him up. Other times I pick up a few items for the local health food store or stop by the library to get the latest book I put on hold.

“Hold on…didn’t you say your kid was in kindergarten?”

Yes he is, but I don’t make it back in time to pick up him. I don’t want to say I will get him and then not make it back in time. Instead I like knowing the daycare picks him up and brings him back there. It’s a great way for him to decompress after being in school all day.

Once I get him then get home a little after 5 pm, the craziness begins. All within in a few hours I have to…

  • empty out his lunch bag and clean it
  • empty out my lunch bag and clean it
  • make lunch and snacks for him
  • make my lunch and snacks
  • see what he has in his backpack
  • get out of my clothes and into panamas…after being in my clothes since 6 am I want out!
  • make side dishes to go with the (hopefully already prepared the night before) main dish
  • go over his homework and read books
  • get my clothes ready for tomorrow
  • try to put away growing pile of clothes on laundry rack
  • wash and dry clothes and towels
  • get his clothes ready for tomorrow
  • cook a main course for the next night
  • compromise and argue about cleaning up and getting ready for bed
  • getting him cleaned and ready for bed
  • cleaning up the living room
  • getting his teeth brushed in bed
  • reading a book or two
  • rubbing his back and having some special cuddle time

This does not include the days I have late meetings, when I take him to karate (and get home even later), or the time I spend on lesson planning.

By the time I get to bed, I lay down and fall right to sleep, only to wake back up because my brain is going a mile a minute.

So after a hard day’s work, I come home and work some more. At least I can work in my pajamas.

How would you finish the sentence, After a hard day’s work…

Fly on the Wall MAY 2015



Fly on the Wall

Welcome to a Fly on the Wall group post. Today 17 bloggers are inviting you to catch a glimpse of what you’d see if you were a fly on the wall in our homes. Come on in and buzz around my house.

Buzz around, see what you think, then click on these links for a peek into some other homes:

Before we start with the crazy things that have been said in our house, let me begin by saying there have been some changes in the blog. As my little guy grows up, I’ve made the blog grow up too. I won’t be changing the name, but you will notice a new moniker “AJ”, this is close to his name without giving away his real name. In addition, I’m removing all the cutesy banners and replacing them with more of my style banners and graphics.  This will always be Dinosaur Superhero Mommy, but will continue to grow as AJ does….So now onto the Fly on the Wall. 


  • Mommy: AKA Karen, me…the wife and mom 
  • Daddy: AKA Tony, husband and dad
  • AJ – our only child, an almost 6 year old boy who thinks he knows it all and is the one in charge

After looking for the remote, AJ laughs and says. “Oh, Mommy, it was so funny, I couldn’t find the remote, but it was in my hands. I’m losing my mind and getting old.”

While waiting in the car for our nacho order to be ready for pickup, a hungry AJ, who is tired of waiting says. “Are you f*cking crazy?” Yes, he learned that from me. Oh well, he’ll hear more curses from me, but thankfully never a derogatory statement about another person.

This time AJ couldn’t find his froggie in all his mess. Imagine that!?!?!?! “I’m gonna freak out if I don’t find my froggie.”

Then he goes happily back to his fort after finding froggy.


I wouldn’t let AJ eat two, rather large, cookies for dessert. He only got one and kept trying to change my mind. After laying down the law, he gave me his evil look and said, “You and your rules.”

AJ is happily sipping a fruit smoothing from the local health food store. This was a Mommy and AJ reward for a busy day of karate and haircuts for us both.

haircut collage

AJ:”Dodo birds are stupid.”
Me: I understand what you are saying, but I don’t like that word.”
AJ: “Well, I think it’s appropriate.” with a sarcastic nod of his head.
Me: “Well, I don’t and I don’t like it.”

After we spoke about other words to use. Daddy explained the word adapt…which was perfect.

Daddy knocked a marker off the table and didn’t pick it up. AJ made his evil face and said, “It is your responsibility to pick up that marker, or I’ll spank you in the butt.”

I think AJ feels he’s in charge of us all…Has me wondering who the adult really is?!?!?!?!

 While putting AJ to bed one night, he asked if I was going to be around for a long time. We’ve had this conversation before, I told him I would be around to babysit his kids.

“I’m going to have lots of kids.”
“Oh really? How many do you want?”
“I want ten kids, 3 brothers, 3 sisters, and 5 little babies.”
“Wow, that’s a lot of kids to take care of.”
“I know, I can do it. I guess I do need marry Zoe,”
“You can marry the person you love.”
“Do I have to kiss her?”
“Yes, if you are married, you will need to kiss and hug her.”
“I know how to kiss.” He tries to show me the kiss, but I explain that he can only give me mommy/son kisses. So he kisses the air….giving butterfly kisses while moving his head back and forth. “I have to kiss her all over her mouth.”

I an NOT ready for him to grow up!

AJ had his karate tournament this past weekend! He loved it. He participated in maneuvers and sparring and got a 5th place trophy for participation. He loves his trophies and keeps telling me every morning and night.

karate mauevers
karate sparring

There has been a lot of cheering in our house lately! Well, mostly it’s me… I’ve been sobbing tears of joy and relief. Cheering a victory for AJ. He is finally getting an IEP and services for reading, speech, and social skills, and his OT will continue!  Finally!!! This has battle has been going on for years and thankfully his current school is amazing!  You can read about that here.


Finally On The Right Track

finally on the right track

After years of of meetings, aggravations, and fighting, AJ finally has the services he should have gotten years ago. He was denied speech services after he aged out of Birth to Three services. In Connecticut the school district then takes over at this point and assign one elementary school to handle these preschool meetings. At this meeting, I was told his speech issues would go away naturally. He was denied OT services numerous times when he was in daycare all through his third and fourth years. They claimed he did not qualify, but gave pages upon pages of activities and resources the daycare teachers could do to help AJ. The daycare was amazing they did all they could, but even they knew AJ needed extra support they could not provide. If he had all those recommendations and needs, why not just give him services? It’s simple really, he wasn’t in their school and wasn’t their issue so they didn’t have to deal with him. When he did start kindergarten he would be at another elementary school in the district so he would never be their problem. It made no difference that I was a special education teacher and reading specialist in NY, they didn’t want to give out resources and time to a kid that would never be their problem. They should all be ashamed of themselves.

Now that he’s in kindergarten that has all changed. I am truly happy with the school and how they have responded to my son’s needs.

First it started with AJ having a 504 plan and getting OT two times a week, then daily breaks and brushing have been added on to his plan. He’s getting speech and reading services to help him with his phonemic and phonological deficits, they will both use a multisensory program to improve his decoding and encoding. He is also going to meet with the school psychologist for a group social skills session once a week. His IEP will begin the rest of this year and continue for 2015-2016 school year. As of right now he is classified as learning disabled since they are not sure if his attention difficulties are due to his sensory issues or ADD. When we go for his annual doctors’ appointment, we can discuss all this with doctor. We will wait and see if the doctor wants to do an assessment for ADD or tell us to wait till September.


I am not crossing dyslexia off the table yet. AJ is very smart and I’m not just saying that because I’m his mother. He understands and expresses vocabulary above his grade level, he loves to read (what do you expect from a mom who is a reading specialist), can answer both literal and inferential comprehension questions, make predictions, describe characters, and summarize text, His deficits are in the areas of phonemic and phonological awareness. What is that you ask. Well HERE is a great explanation.

I know first hand what happens when students are not given the support they need. Students who are given services too late, struggle in the later years and will never catch up to where they are supposed to be academically.

This describes AJ now, he spends all his energy on trying to sound out and write letters, that his amazing stories are getting lost in the frustration. If this is happening now in kindergarten, what will happen when he’s in third and fourth grade and he still can’t properly read the words on the page or write down what he expressed aloud. Now with reading support focusing on a multisensory program, we will see if and how AJ improves.

AJ will also be getting summer services for the month of July, this will effect the time he spends at daycare summer camp. I know he will be upset about missing field trips on Thursdays, but he really needs support over the summer. I will try to get him back to daycare camp in time for swimming and horseback riding. It’s not his fault the previous school did not do their job and give him the services he needed; but AJ needs extra time to catch up. Summer school is only three days a week, three hours each day for four weeks. After that he will have all of August to enjoy summer camp. I’ll make sure I have fun activities planned on the weekends.

What are your kids doing this summer?


I know I’m taking a big risk posting about this. There are people who will judge, tell me what I should have done differently, or just send negativity my way. I say go for it if it makes you happy. Their negative vibes will have no effect on me. I know AJ and I have love and support that outweighs any negativity. Besides, I own the domain, therefore this is my blog and I can post whatever I choose. I want to be honest and open with my readers, I want to share our struggles and joys.

Do your kid(s) receive support services? Was it a battle or did the distinct
provide services immediately?

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New Experiences and Challenges



This past Sunday, for Mother’s Day I ran walked the Run Like A Mother 5k and AJ did the 1 mile for kids. What an experience it was, wish I had done that sooner. This was my first time attempting anything of the sort. At one point I almost cried. It wasn’t because I couldn’t do it, it was the overwhelming power of the moment. Just looking up and seeing all the kids in their blue shirts and all the women, moms, daughters, sisters, aunts, grandmas, and friends in their pink shirts. What a sight it was. I could feel it in the air and I am so proud to have been a part of it.

I walked the 5k in 55 mins! For me that is darn good. Next year my goal is to jog it in 45 minutes, if I do better than that is great. Even AJ is excited for next year. He said he will practice running so he can run with the big guys. I think he wants to challenge himself to run faster as well!

rlam collage

I recently learned how to effectively tie my sneakers when running walking. I never paid attention to this extra hole and really could have used this for my 5k. I tried it and it’s AMAZING, it really works. I didn’t have the irritation above my heel or on my pinky toe! Even the bottom of my heels didn’t hurt as much. Did you already know about this?


What do you listen to when you exercise? Music used to be my motivation for long commutes and exercise, now it’s a good book. I don’t own an iPod, but with Audible I can listen to any book, anytime, and anywhere. All you need is the Audible app and an Amazon account. You simply download the book and listen till your heart’s content. Want to know what books I’m reading and read my reviews? Do you post about your book reviews? If you do you can link them up every Monday. Here’s my latest book review and linky.

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I still borrow CD books from the library, we should all take advantage of that. Though they may be cutting back on CDs they can send from other libraries to your library. Did you know you could do that? If your branch doesn’t have the book you want, you can go onto bibliomation and have the book sent to your branch when it’s available. Not sure what to do, just ask a librarian. Neat, right? Well, I really hope they don’t cut back on that, but afraid they will.

Each new book brings on a new journey, a new adventure, a new family. I don’t want to leave this place,

I want to press a button and like magic additional chapters appear and the story continues. 

It really is devastating when a book ends. No matter if the ending is what you wanted, feared, hated, or cherished…you don’t want it to end. Then you start a new book and the possibilities are endless, but you never forget your old friends.


AJ is going to be six next month! Can you believe it? 6!!! Where did the time go? The fact that it took us 6 years to become parents and that is how old our little guy is! All those years of depression, worry, anger, jealousy, worry, fear are now replaced with love, hope, joys, craziness, passion and family.

Every milestone, every accomplishment, every worry, every frustration is truly a blessing I once thought I would never get to enjoy.

I think it’s time to start working on his party supplies and gift bags. I have to start taking his 6 year old picture make a collage of his previous b-day pics. Do you go to a professional or do it yourself? I have been using PicMonkey to edit pic and make collages and it’s a BIG money saver. The more you practice the better you get at it, besides it’s fun to create your own!

This Week I Read…

Yes, I’m changing a few things here. My guy is growing up and therefore this blog must grow too. While I’ll still keep the name and content, the way posts are presented will change. I will be referring to my little man as AJ, as this is close to his real name while still keeping his anonymity). Now on to the book review.

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Dog in Boots

knight for a day
We bought this book about a year ago, or perhaps even two years ago. We read this every so often, it’s still one of our very favorites.

Amazon Summary:

Inspired by his favorite story about a cat with fantastic boots, Dog heads out to the local shoe store and emerges with some splendid footwear. Wants and needs are contrasted through the process of trial and error in this cheerful picture book.

AJ’s Review:

Dog is so silly, he wants to be like the cat in the story. He wants boots, but doesn’t like them. Then gets high heels and flippers, but doesn’t like them. He already has paws but doesn’t know they are awesome.

Mommy’s Review:

Even though this book is adorable and silly, it has the wondrous message that you MUST always be happy and love who you are and what you have. Dog thinks he needs all these different types of footwear to be a great dog and do great things. In reality, his own paws can do it all…if only he had seen the versatility and wonder of his own paws in the first place.

Dog tries various shoes and silly things happen. AJ can just about repeat the book word for word. The illustrations are wonderful and appealing. 

Kid Lit Blog Hop

Run, Walk, or Perhaps Crawl

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So after watching the race for years, I’m joining the Run Like a Mother Race 5K in my town on Mother’s Day!

No, I will not be running, but I will be walking. I thought I would be crawling after a few minutes, but I surprised myself as I trained for the race. I walked 2.3 miles in just 47 minutes last weekend! Then today I walked 3 miles in 55 minutes!!!!! I did it!!!!

AJ will be joining me too! The kids get to run one mile before the moms run. How exciting is that! He gets his own shirt and a medal for competing.

What do all the contestants get for participating? We get a recyclable tote/grocery bag, a Jockey Performance Tech Tee, a race bib (with timing chip affixed) and some small goodies. Pretty awesome right? After the race we get a ribbon I believe. I’m going to pick up our shirts and goodies Friday afternoon.

I hope Hubby takes lots of pictures, I want to capture all the great moments. I got some great advice, don’t worry about the other racers, just focus on me. Don’t worry about competing with anyone, just compete with yourself! So I plan to do just that, I’ll continue listening to Tess Gerritsen’s new book on Audible.

Die Again: Rizzoli & Isles | [Tess Gerritsen]

At the finish line, which is the local park, they will have stands with activities. I really am looking forward to the being a part of it all. I can’t think of a better way to celebrate Mother’s Day? I’m hoping to go to one of the local restaurants and get have brunch with my guys afterwards. Then we have to all walk back up a hill to get home, but after a 5K it shouldn’t be too bad, right?

How about you? How will you be celebrating this Mother’s Day?


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